I haven't posted about this because I wasn't dealing with it well. I am ready for closure now.
My 13 year old daughter got a cell phone for Christmas. She had been wanting one forever and she had found the "perfect" pre-paid one. We had told her she was too young but then surprised her at Christmas with it. She couldn't have been happier. Just ask Jen Suits. Wink!
Anyway the day we were activating it she got a phone call on it before we had even called anyone on it. I told her not to answer it because she doesn't know the number so don't waste your minutes on it. The caller left a message and the message that he left was weird. My husband called the number back with his own cell phone and told the guy that he must have the wrong number because the phone he called belonged to our teenage daughter. The caller apologized and said he thought he was calling his nephew's phone. We hadn't yet set up her voice mail so he would have gotten "you have reached such and such a number".
MISTAKE #1: Never tell ANYONE that a number belongs to a teenage girl.
So we went ahead and finished programing her phone and let her put her voice message on it for her answering service.
MISTAKE #2: Never let your teenage daughter have her own voice or name on her cell phone. Leave it with the "you have reached such and such a number".
I saved that first call in her phone book as "do not answer" in case he called again. He did but that time he didn't leave a message.
Then the weekend after New Year's she received another weird call so again I saved the number as "don't answer" so she would know to ignore it if it came in again. It was from a different phone.
Then mid-January at 4am in the morning while her phone was turned off "HE" left a message. She was at a friends house with 2 other girls. When they woke up in the morning and turned the phone on she seen she had a message. This is where I have to type through tears. The message "HE" left was more vulgar and profane than anything I have ever heard and I am an adult. My innocent daughter and her 3 friends heard at least part of the message of him explaining what he was doing to himself and what he wanted to do to her and use on her and he used her name. The father at the house she was at told her to turn the phone off and call us.
I couldn't even listen to the whole message because I was crying so hard knowing my daughter and her friends had heard this. I had to give the phone to Mark and he was a bit caught off guard as to why I got so emotional, until he heard the message for himself. We immediately called the police. They were at our house within 20 minutes. I was very impressed with that. After the police left Mark drove to the other girls houses to explain to the parents what happened so they could be informed when they talked to their daughters.
Over the last month we have pulled our daughter's phone records, the police have been pulling the phone records of the numbers on her phone and we have transferred everything on our daughter's phone over onto permanent records for the police but as of 3 weeks ago the police felt they hit a dead end. Every number we have has proven not to be his. He has covered his tracks by some means. But all the numbers we had were from a neighboring city to us. That is the part I have a hard time stomaching. Does "HE" live near us? Who else is "HE" doing this to?
I have had to pray so hard for this because it was consuming my thoughts. I told my husband that I can't keep wondering who "HE" is and how close "HE" might live to us. I gave it over to God and have had a lot of peace about the fact that God has it under his control.
We changed her phone number. Listed it in Mark's name. And left the voice message as the pre-recorded one that just lists the phone number, no name.
And then about an hour ago I got a call from the detective. They got "HIM"! "HE" has been arrested. He does live close to us and the detective wanted to give me his name to make certain that we didn't know him. We don't. "HIS" telephone records show he was making over 100 calls a night! He calls random numbers until he finds a phone with a young girls voice on the message. (Remember mistake #2) They have had a lot of complaints since ours and they all are they same vulgar messages. "HE" will be prosecuted!
I am praising God!
PLEASE if your teenage daughters have cell phones warn them to not answer calls they don't recognize and to not use their name or voice on their answering machine.